In most families, some the siblings harbor the feeling of unequal treatment or favoritism practised by the parents. Some children express it openly but some harbor this feeling throughout their lives, without giving it expression.
In Chinese families when parents encounter such complaint or expression of frustration from one of their children they normally reply this way: ‘If the hand is stretched out and any two fingers …….. are bitten on, both the fingers will feel the same pain’.
This is to indicate that both the children are their own and the love shown is the same and of the same intensity. That the perception of favoritism is definitely untrue.
Sometimes this declaration is made in a plain manner, at others it is made with melodrama. This may be a way to gauge the truthfulness of their statement.
The ancient sages sure had beautiful ways to express their feelings.
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