The innermost desire of a dad.


What Is A Dad?

A dad is someone who
wants to catch you before you fall
but instead picks you up,
brushes you off,
and lets you try again.

A dad is someone who
wants to keep you from making mistakes
but instead lets you find your own way,
even though his heart breaks in silence
when you get hurt.

A dad is someone who
holds you when you cry,
scolds you when you break the rules,
shines with pride when you succeed,
and has faith in you even when you fail.

–Anonymous

I took this poem from ‘somuchmorethanamom’. I told her I think the “Dad’ mentioned is the ideal dad, a dad many fathers aspire to be but many have to finally admit they fall short. Idealism is a far cry from reality. What I will try to do here is to give the real picture.

‘A dad is someone who
wants to catch you before you fall
but instead picks you up,
brushes you off,
and lets you try again’.

It is hundred percent right, he wants ‘to catch you before you fall’ this is the part that causes the conflicts between the dad and the children. This is the part that earns them the wrath of the children. To the dad he wants to save the children having to go through the pains and sufferings they themselves had underwent, he wants to share his experiences but this is not understood by the children. The children usually take it as the dad stifling their growth, denying them their right to experience the challenges of life. If the dad persists and does not learn how to let go of it, the communication gap usually widens.

‘…but instead picks you up,
brushes you off,
and lets you try again’

This part is almost, always done reluctantly if the dad anticipates the consequences would be negative.

A dad is someone who
wants to keep you from making mistakes
but instead lets you find your own way,
even though his heart breaks in silence
when you get hurt.

He always ‘lets you find your own way’ but always with a heavy heart, and it often ends up with him paying a heavy price – emotionally and sometimes financially too. How hard his hearts breaks and  into countless pieces when the children get hurt in the process.

A dad is someone who
holds you when you cry,
scolds you when you break the rules,
shines with pride when you succeed,
and has faith in you even when you fail.

At the end of everything, though he has failed to do the things he dearly wants to do, to provide the security that he sees as a father’s obligation, he still throws his faith behind his children. He ardently hopes and silently prays his young ones are more wise and have become more mature having gone through the tests by fire.

It is sometimes heart-breaking when we witness some children letting their fathers down repeatedly, to see the father pained again and again. It seems the love is taken for granted, not appreciated at all.  Some children just do not learn at all.

Bloggers, leave stories of your dad’s sacrifices here. Sing their praises in front of others. Do not leave their efforts unrecognized!!!

Come visit again. Thank you.

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One thought on “The innermost desire of a dad.

  1. Very touching and true, this IS the ideal. Thanks for sharing!

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